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Smart me, great kids and happy society

From December 2010 to March 2011, the SEB Heategevusfond /Charity Fund/ worked with the Mentor programme to provide a series of evening training courses on relationships for SEB employees. As part of a pilot project entitled ‘How to be a Smart Parent’, the participants were introduced to new perspectives and new approaches in resolving problems and developing good relationships. Interest in attending the course was high – in less than 24 hours the groups were full to overflowing, with enough people signing up to warrant an entire second course.

The ‘How to be a Smart Parent’ training was sponsored by SEB Eesti /Estonia/.

Over five sessions the participants worked with trainers Tuuli Vellam and Pille Isati to answer the questions: What is important in interpersonal relationships and in raising children? How has society changed from the point of view of the family and what approaches that our parents used have we adopted in raising our own children? Discussions were held on the basic needs and development of children; understanding from the point of view of children; the influence parents have on a child’s forming a sense of self-awareness; relationship models; attitudes common among young people; alcohol, tobacco and drug use; danger signs related to risk behaviour; and much more.

The following are just some of the thoughts expressed by the participants:
“It helped me understand why kids behave the way they do sometimes, and taught me to look at them from a different angle. I really like the way the training was structured – we were able to contribute a lot and say what was on our minds.”
“It was good to hear that it’s fine to trust your instincts and stay true to yourself and that you don’t have to stick to some rigid method of child-rearing. The course got us thinking about the issues we talked about in a much broader way.”
“It made me analyse myself more. I learnt things, and it was really supportive, because a lot of us had the same kinds of questions and problems, and discussing them I realised that there are answers to all of them.”
“My 4-year-old son sends out very clear and understandable ‘me’ messages to the world. The training has given my family some great new traditions to follow!”
“My kids were really excited that I was doing the course, and they keep testing me now from time to time to make sure that I’m putting what I learnt to good use!”
“The course taught me a lot and has got me thinking a lot more deeply about different situations in life. I think the issues we talked about are important for everyone.”
“I only ever used to look at things from my own perspective, but now I can put myself in my kids’ shoes. It’s about compromise, not ‘do as I say’. I learnt a lot of useful ways of stepping aside and looking at what you’re saying and doing, and putting yourself in other people’s places.”
“I told my 6-year-old daughter that it was time for her to go to bed, but she said she wanted to watch the film she was watching for another 10 minutes. The skills we learnt on the course meant I was able to approach the situation differently – I said that was fine: I’d wait 10 minutes, and after that she would have to turn the TV off and get into bed herself. And she did! Normally it would have been a case of 10 minutes of arguing about it and then another 10 minutes of tantrums before she’d finally go – very grudgingly – to bed. But now I realise that I was by far the worst of the two of us in terms of tantrum-throwing every night!”
“A steady drip will carve a hole in a rock eventually. Every course you do teaches you something new and makes you a better person. I liked the tips we were given on how to get closer to and stay close to your children and the links we were given to sources of information about child-rearing issues that are of interest to us. I realised that other people have the same sort of concerns and problems as me and that I’m not a bad parent. It was really encouraging to take part in a course that helps me cope as a parent.”

Those who took part in the course were grateful to their employer for the opportunity to do so. For parents, all issues related to children are important, and if there are problems at home in terms of relationships with children and other family members, they often spill over into work. If everything is fine at home, better working results are virtually guaranteed – it is not only professional competence that is important to employers, but that there is harmony in their workers’ family lives.

Going to bed at night and getting up in the morning, we are first and foremost family members to those close to us – a partner, a mother or father, or an aunt or uncle. From Monday to Friday between nine and five, on the other hand, we are colleagues at work. But these are not separate lives: they are two parts of the same life. The feedback received after the course showed how happy the participants were that they can now look at the way they used to behave from a different angle based on the new principles they have learned. Clear and effective expression of our wishes, feelings, thoughts and opinions forms an important part of the basis on which good relationships are founded, both at home and at work.

Smart parents, great kids and a strong society… Enjoy spring and sunny relationships at home and with your colleagues!

Triin Lumi

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